Updated: Aug 13, 2020
One of my friends shared with me today how one of her big dreams had just been blown to bits. She was expecting that the job she seemed destined to fill actually wasn’t offered to her. She had invested plenty of time and energy in pursuit of it. Then,she got the rejection email and that dream was dashed. Now she has to figure out a new plan since her hopes were riding on that to deliver her from a job that’s no longer satisfying.
Have you found yourself at the crossroads of change, wondering what to do when perhaps a carefully crafted plan, and one you were counting on explodes? It might be the unthinkable—an engagement is broken, a job lost, a dream crushed, a scary diagnosis.
It doesn’t matter what they are, when unwelcome events enter our lives, they snap us into a new reality. It’s a confusing time sorting it all out, initially reeling from the shock of change, of what you never could have imagined or never wanted to experience. You had it all figured out and then, Bam! The bomb lands in your lap. Your world is rocking and you’re shell-shocked.
Life-changing events do exactly that, change not only our plans, but change us, too. Not getting what we want or expected offers a chance to become very conscious of our desires and the fragility of life. Unplanned events often point to new priorities, and often inspire you to undergo some soul-searching.
It’s disconcerting when thrust in the “Don’t Know Zone”, not knowing your next move, or how you’ll get through whatever you must. That’s normal. As much as you may desire clarity right away, hold to the belief that the answers will come as well as the next steps to take. Change is a process, often adjustment slower than you may like, but taking place all in perfect time.
When things don’t go according to your plans or expectations, hang on to knowing that the normal flow of life is often chaotic. You share a common bond with everyone for this is all part of every life, even those that seem so perfect.
A resilient attitude regenerates and renews. It’s being aware that you possess the power to bravely move forward. Be mindful of letting go of any anger, resentment, fear, or other feelings that keep you stuck in negative states. Continue to release these feelings as they arise because these prevent you from taking positive action in your desire to move forward. If you find yourself in a whirlpool of swirling fears, be resolved to keep releasing them, replacing them with thoughts of what you desire and knowing you’re in the process of attracting to you.